Below is a previous blog post I wrote around New Years Eve, resolutions and planning for the new year. I wanted to share it again with you as the themes and message still ring true.
As we approach the transition into the New Year and recognize that it is not far away, what
projects come to mind? What would you like to
accomplish? What is the metaphorical marathon you would like
This month and particularly on Dec 31, many people will be making a list of plans and of New Year's resolutions. The key, though, is to determine if those really are the resolutions and visions you care most about.
We live in an "outside in" culture, unconsciously setting up goals that have often been established for us by our social circle, society, business, or industry. It can become, as the great psychoanalyst Karen Horney called it, "The Tyranny of the Shoulds".
But what really matters to you? What ideas and visions resonate for you? What makes your heart sing?
Fulfilling a large goal can be like running a marathon, but if your plans are aligned with your true purpose and passion, the going won't be quite so tough. And wouldn't it be cool if when you finally cross that finish line, it's for your true vision vs. someone else's or what you thought you "should" do?
I'm tired of those who say you have to decide which talent to pursue. We live in a world now where you can COMBINE and harness the full spectrum of who you are and what you've got.
You just need a bit of courage, imagination and determination.
No doubt, it's far easier (though ultimately more painful) to tone yourself down than it is to dig deep and combine and celebrate what you have.
But the truth is, landmark success doesn't come from running with the pack and shaving off parts of who you are to fit into a mold.
Landmark success results from taking risks; and risk requires exploration, creativity and the courage to trust that the integration of talents -- those with which you are inherently gifted -- will produce extraordinary results. This is the foundation of The Prism Effect. It is the foundation of all great lives, great businesses and great works of art. And you...are a work of art.
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One of the core tenants of my coaching is exactly this: the power of "the idea that might lead to the idea."
In developing new material or even in revamping old, this is critical. We so often get stuck in old patterns of thinking and when get that flash -- that creative impulse (however wacky) -- it is worth paying attention to.
I believe this is your creative genius at work.
When I start working with a new client, I always explain the importance of this -- of not tossing out any ideas too soon. This gives them freedom to brainstorm without fear of judgment and often what follows is a client will say that day or at a future session, "OK. I know this is kind of strange. But it could be 'the idea that leads to the idea.'" And we are off and running.
So...let's look at that as it applies to your next interaction in which the topic always feels kind of the same in tone, content and delivery: perhaps it's a weekly staff meeting, an annual convention, a regular get together with some family members or friends at which things are always "kind of the same."
What's your wild idea to shake things up? Begin by saying quietly to yourself, "Wouldn't it be cool if...?" and see where your imagination takes you.
As we all know, there are many components that make for a great speech but one technique that's rarely talked about is what I call "Animating Experiences, Adjectives and Emotions."
When you are truly committed to your point, analogy or story, your body and voice will come to life. This is why coaches who work from "the outside in" will get you in trouble. The gestures they give you to do are forced and inorganic. And, the forced movement can also come from speakers who have presented their story so many times that the movements seem phony -- a mix of self-aware, hollow and overdone.
Think for a moment of a young child you know or your own kids when they were little. When telling a story that they truly want you to 'get', their voice is filled with unexpected sounds and huge shifts in volume and tone; their bodies is alive with animation.
So how committed are you?
How much passion do you have for your topic?
And how important is it that your audience 'get' your message?
How much or how you little animating you do depends on the venue, the audience, your message and your objectives...a boardroom presentation is vastly different from a keynote address at an arena-sized space, but
And animation is just one way to let that passion out. Take a look at the video, give one of these ideas a try, and let me know how it goes.