August 2011 Archives

Having the Courage to Trust Your Own Uncertain Convictions

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The Sunday V - August 28 2011 - Victoria Labalme.jpgThis was a week that went like a fire hose of intensely focused creative energy. Working on a book proposal, coaching clients in 1-on-1 settings and attending performances at night. On Friday, I read Hugh MacLeod's superb book, Ignore Everybody. Couldn't put it down.

Holy moly that's an incredible piece. The honesty of his voice and the creativity throughout was like walking into a garden after being in a dusty parking lot.

Inspired me. Delighted me. Made me laugh out loud.

Little Works - jumping for joy - Victoria Labalme.jpgDuring this week, a few of my clients were smiling with this kind of glee as they discovered their own creative geniuses. 

It's incredible what comes out of someone when you give them space and encouragement. Not every idea is brilliant but boy, there are some hidden gems in there.

Part of my job as a coach is not simply to give people strategic, tactical, pragmatic tools to communicate their ideas effectively, but also to help my clients bring their innermost hidden ideas to life and see where they lead.

Not all lead to material that ends up in their presentation but often, the sparkle of an idea that gets tossed out leads to a unbelievably great gem. I call this,

"The idea that might lead to the idea."

Once this parameter is set -- that all ideas are OK to share because the one you toss out could be "the idea that leads to the idea" -- we are free to brainstorm without fear.   

Often, my clients will say, "OK. I know this is kind of strange. But it could be 'the idea that leads to the idea.'"  And we are off and running.

The delight that emerges as a result of this approach is stunning, the energy pure and gleeful. 

When you're developing material -- be it a book proposal, a presentation, a pitch, plan or performance -- be mindful of those you share it with early on. Not everyone is trained in the philosophy of "the idea that might lead to the idea" and not everyone knows how to help you nurture a creative impulse along. Often, a new idea is met with furrowed brows, objections, doubt and worry. As Hugh says so beautifully in his book, "Good ideas have lonely childhoods." That is true for a reason. 

Trust that "small still voice" within you.
 
Have the courage
to trust your own uncertain convictions.

We often think the right choices will be blatantly obvious, bolts of lightning. Occasionally they are...but not always. Some of the greatest works of art and business plans developed from inklings of uncertain ideas.

What are yours? 

Begin to put them into the world, even in the smallest of ways...and see what wild rubies you create.Victoria Labalme - Little Works.png
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Make your Next Meeting a Work of Art

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I'm here in Warsaw, Poland and went tonight to see my long time friend, Gregg Goldston, in his exceptional one-man mime show, Louder Than Words.  (You can see a video clip on that link.) Tonight's event is part of an unbelievable international mime festival that happens each year, one that brings in some of the world's most elite performers.

Gregg Goldston.jpgLet me just start by saying that Gregg is not your typical street mime, so wipe that image from your mind.  Anna Kisselgoff (former chief dance critic for The New York Times), reviewed Gregg's show in the 1980s and even back then called him, "A blazing display of physical virtuosity."  Gregg is a breathtaking performer -- stunning, classical, lyrical, hilarious, and mind boggling. He embodies the best of what the art of mime has to offer.

What struck me about Gregg's show tonight -- and always does -- is his style of incorporating his unique gifts from outside the art of mime and bringing them into the show to create a completely unique experience...and expand the art form in the process.

Being one who loves jazz, he has woven jazz music into numerous elements of his show: in the interstitial moments between his solo pieces, in the context of his actual creations, and in the final piece where he bounces light around a pitch black stage (breathtaking) catching the ball of light in his hand like an artful juggler -- all to the music of Jeff Beck. 

Gregg also projects black and white slides of his pen and ink line drawings, putting into play his skill as an artist.
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 Gregg Goldston - Ballroom 203.jpgThe result: A thoroughly original and memorable performance.

So...when's your next performance? (a.k.a your next presentation or meeting...because don't kid yourself...it is a performance.) How can you make it completely original and memorable so that when people walk out, they're saying, "I've never seen X (insert your name) do that. Wow. That was pretty cool." 

Here's a clue: What are two outside skills or passions you have (drumming, painting, gardening, motorcycles, photography, etc.) and how can you bring those into your next event, even in the smallest of ways?

Little Works - What Razzes your Berry - Victoria Labalme.jpgJust think about it....If you are a former drummer, what if you started your next meeting with two drumsticks in hand and gave a demonstration of the importance of staying loose in your grip as a technique for allowing speed of movement and mastery? If you love photography, what if you brought in a lens and took it apart to explain how light reflects off the interior mirrors. How is that like your team?

Gregg Goldston drawing.jpgStart thinking creatively. 

Because whatever activity you demonstrate or prop you unveil will most likely be, as with Gregg's performance, louder than words.
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Finding Home - Searching for the Right Profession

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On Aug 2, 2011, I was inducted into the Speakers Hall of Fame. I am humbled and grateful for this tremendous honor. Below is the majority of my acceptance speech before 1,500 of my peers at the National Speakers Association National Convention in Anaheim. I am posting the speech here in the hopes that it may help anyone who is still searching for their professional home. With thanks - Victoria

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When I came home to New York City in 1993 after living in West Africa, I was disoriented, depressed, and quite confused. Not only was I in culture shock, but being in my mid 20s, I looked around and realized that most of my friends now had husbands, careers, income and direction.

I had none of these.

What I did have were many seemingly disparate passions and interests - writing and performing, directing and producing, choreography and comedy...And while I'd tried out each discipline individually, no one profession seemed to house them all.

One evening, I went to visit my parents and found myself sitting in my old room, slumped at the foot of my old bed on my pale blue comforter. I dissolved into tears. I felt splintered by my interests and I felt lost. My mother wrapped her arms around me and said, "Your gifts will bring you home."

It took a while. I kept trying. Then, a turning point came when I auditioned in NYC for HBO's Aspen Comedy Festival. I was certain this would be the answer to my search; a spot at the festival would lead to a career in Hollywood where I could combine my interests.

But I didn't get into the Festival. I wasn't accepted. Without knowing it, however, I had auditioned for a community far more important: NSA.

Because that night, three speakers were in the audience: Rande & Robert Gedaliah...and Tim Richardson.

When I went out into the lobby after the show, Tim thrust his hand forward, introduced himself, and declared, "You need to come be a speaker."

But I resisted. I had my sites set on Hollywood and on fame. Tim stayed on me, though, calling every six months or so, encouraging me to come to one NSA event or another.

And then, a number of years later, on the heels of 9/11 and the loss of my mother -- two back to events that shifted the tectonic plates of my entire being -- being famous in Hollywood didn't seem quite as important as connecting and contributing...and NSA seemed to offer the opportunity to do just that. And so in 2003, a decade from that day when I had sat slumped at the foot of my bed on my pale blue comforter, I found myself at NSA.

And at the end of my very first day of my very first convention, I rode back up to my room in the Hilton hotel elevators there in Irvine with a group of speakers I hadn't yet met.

I was joyous from the day, simultaneously exhausted and fulfilled. The other speakers all got off on one floor, joking and laughing as they left, but as they turned to head down the hall, one turned back -- and I wish I knew which one of you this was -- and as the elevator doors were starting to close, he nodded, smiled and called out, "Welcome home, sister."

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The journey from my blue comforter to this moment has been an incredible ride; and it has been an incredible ride because of the people who have guided and helped me along the way. To them I owe a huge thanks...and the honor of this award.

To those of you who are here for the first time and feel this isn't quite your place, keep searching...you will find it. And to those of you who are here tonight and feel you've found your home...welcome.

Thank you all, deeply, for this honor.


National Speakers Association - National Convention - Aug 2, 2011

What's Your Message?

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I'm here at the National Speakers Association National Convention Influence '11 in Anaheim, California and there's a theme that keeps coming up.

Larry Winget spoke about it brilliantly today; Glenna Salsbury and Lou Heckler spoke about it in their superb keynotes; the one-of-a-kind Randy Gage Convention Chair raised it today; Terri Sjodin addressed it in her fabulous keynote on sales and persuasive presentations; Sally Hogshead mentioned it in tonight's panel as being a part of what makes someone fascinating; and last night, on a panel titled "NSA Tonight" Steve Rizzo, Tim Gard, Jeffrey Gitomer, Mike Rayburn and I each spoke about it. It's come up again and again in the halls and on the speakers' platform.

To be a great speaker, to be a memorable and unique speaker, you have to start by speaking your truth. And you have to deliver that truth in a style that is authentic to you.

Sounds simple? 

Surprisingly, this is not as easy as it would seem. Presenters get distracted and sidetracked thinking about what they "should" be, how they "should" present...and often, sadly, by trying to become someone else, offering a watered down poor imitation of another speaker.

The fact is that for many, it's hard to know what their true message is.

How does one discover it?

Years ago, someone gave me this exercise.

I'm not suggesting that it's the only exercise or the best one, but it certainly does cut to the quick and to your core with surprising speed.

Here it is.

Imagine this...

Desert Island.jpgIf you were on a desert island dying, and there was a young person there with you -- someone you loved, someone you cared about deeply -- and there was only one message you could give them, one piece of advice about the world and how to live........

what would it be?

Now....... go start speaking about that.

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